I am Mak Nor

Asalamualaikum dear readers,

How do you do! Hope you are all doing fine blessed by our Al Mighty Allah.

Its been a long time!. I can see the dust all over this blog!.

owh dear! wipe! wipe! wipe! owh dear! sweep! sweep! sweep!

owh dear! span! span! span!

Oh..okay, It looks better now!.

Any way, Do you miss me?

Oh.. I am all blushed!. Thank you! and I miss you too!

Been busy with my Malay blog lately. But kind of miss you here,  so here I am.

Do you know that when it is a matter of a little bit personal, I choose to pour my heart here!. Its been a habit I suppose.

I like to share my feeling about something that bothers me. not that I need help nor did I need advice but indeed I definitely  need to borrow some ears here.

But if you care to drop some advices or some comments I am very much grateful.

Two days ago, which was on the night of eidul Adhar, We held a small ceremony for my son’s engagement. It is my husband’s choice. As I did not see any doubt and fault, I agreed from the bottom of my heart. . The girl seems like a nice girl. And my father likes her family too. He knew the whole family starting from her  great grandfather!. So  on the fixed date and time we went to the girl’s house with some gifts to accompany the royal ring.

We came rather late though, with  the hustle and bustle moms tending their kids and crying babies, they should understand I guess. Any way we did apologized and were accepted!.

The ceremony begins with a  warm ‘wellcome’ and after that I know nothing about any thing because I was busy tending and consoling my grandson who is crying. He saw that every body love his brother and he don’t want to lose his brother!.

Hearty feast was given at the end of the ceremony.It was here that I was told what had happened. There was an old man who wants to know how much dowry we are giving. My husband would never never tell. It cause some heated argument too because the old man force my reluctant husband. but no no no we will never tell!. 

Does it matters much that you have to know other people’s affair.Or is a dowry represent personality?  And also I would like to know the perception of the community around me about this so call ’dowry’  as the girl is from my neighborhood. As a matter of fact my husband and I had discussed this matter with her family. Actually I am impressed but also rather ashamed,when her grandmother turned red in respond to my husband’s question - [what amount of dowry do you prefer?]  and she said [’We are not selling our girl here! we will take what ever you give gratefully!’] And so the story ends.

Back home  I told my son to give an amount sufficient enough for the family to hold a humble wedding feast. That is according to the value of money now a days. And we are not telling any body even my own siblings!.

Sorry to say that I do not understand why it is so important for the village folks to know how much dowry will be given!. but I understand that our Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him, said that the least dowry the better. I hold fast onto that!.

This tradition of acknowleadging  the dowry to the whole guest is a disgusting practice and should be thrown  away out of the window once and for all  because it cause  many nagative  out come.

Among others, comparing ‘whose dowry is the biggest’ is a very bad habit and we knew that our Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him does not favour that.

It will also be a matter of cause  to delay a man from proposing to the desired girl and the girl who received a small dowry will felt humiliated and the worse part is, it will develop an enthusiasm of money! money! money! nothing more but money!.  and the choice of groom will be base on ‘ the bigger dowry the better!’

We have to change our attitude before it is too late and before our girls become old maids

Forgive me for my bad reputation here, I am not usually this rude actually. may be I got carried away.

I beg your pardon!.

Wassalam

Asalamualaikum dear readers,

I had just chatted with my youngest daughter a few hours ago.It really did me good. I didn’t realized that I had missed her that much but the fact that I feel good after chatting nothing with her{the topic was not at all important} definitely shows how much I missed her. Yes I do! I do miss her!

Actually I am not really cut out of her life totally like it seems to look like with all the missing and all that because once in a while we will chat online. In-fact I am always online for my sons and daughters to contact me!. But today I feel different.I think I miss everyone today. I miss all my sons and all my daughters.

Maybe because of my condition or because of my health either or maybe neither at all but I am feeling down today. I am bleeding for more than 20 days. I saw a doctor today, she gave me some pills.May Allah stop the bleed. I don’t know what has gone wrong with my body. Maybe something is loose some where. Anyway we all know that nothing will happen without Allah’s permission so nothing to worry. My praises to Allah that I am not in pain like the other day. So it is just wet and miserable!. But still praises are to Allah. Only Allah The Mighty Healer who can heal me and only to him I seek aid and assistance.

May we all prosper under His protection

wasallam   

Asalamualaikum dear beloved readers,May we prosper under the protection of Allah our Mighty Protector.

Wonderful thing  had just happened! Guess what??

I  received an Airmail from my son. I am so happy that words can’t tell.

Allah have granted my wish. Thank you Allah Azzawajalla.I really do appreciate it because I am so worried not knowing of  his being. Now that I have heard of him and knows of his where about I felt relief and happy.

But I am also ashamed of my selfishness and my weakness.  And I beg Allah for His  forgiveness because I should not bother him with this worldly thing when he is giving his self and time to Allah. I know that I should not interfere but I can’t help it. Please forgive me ya Allah.

When I compare myself to the Sahabiah radhiallahuanha,I am so ashamed with myself.I felt so small and lack of bravery. I am not as brave as they were.  I know that when they send their son away they did not expect to see them again but I can’t do that. I know that my son pray to Allah to die while in the path of Allah but I pray to Allah for my son’s health and long life. As I said before I am very much ashamed. 

Wassalam

Asalamualaikum dear readers!

I think it is still not too late to wish you all a ‘Happy Eidul Fitri’ as we are still in the month of syawal.

How are you doing out there? I hope you are all healthy and fine under Allah’s protection.

As for me, I have been busy for the past 3 weeks and only now that I have the time to sit in this chair in-front of my beloved pc.

Surely you can understand why my blog is outdated and full of dust.

How are your Eidul Fitri celebration?

Mine  are tiring and hectic!!. The first and second of syawal are my fathers ‘Open House’ day.  As usual, as in the past years, I am the one who have to handle the function. Everything including the food.

Oooo please do not jump to any assumption!, I am not alone! Every body give their hands. My sisters in law did their share in preparing the dishes.As a matter of fact my youngest sister in law did most of the cooking because she  obviously cooks better than me. Cooking is not my specialty any way!. My children and my youngest brother help with the setting and presentation. Everything when smoothly as plan. My father’s chick to chick smile drain away our tiredness.All the hard work were paid by his lit up and brimming face. Indeed! everything we did is only to make him happy. ‘We love you so much father’

On the first day we serve chicken satay[2000 sticks] and its compliments which are peanuts gravy.slices of cucumbers and compressed rice [ketupat], beef soup for mee soup and bee hoon soup[kedah style!], beef dendeng[an Indonesian dish cooked by my second brother] and vegetable pecal [another Indonesian dish].  and we make 2 large buckets of orange juice and rose syrup in ice for the drink.There are also some biscuits to nibble while chatting. Guest came streaming in and out from as early as after solat sunat eidul fitri until after isya’. My sisters and her families  who came in the afternoon took charge too. After Isya’ my youngest brother and his wife with me and my third son and my youngest daughter escape to visit our uncles. And that night I slept like a log!.

On the second day we serve the another half of the satay [2000 sticks too] and its compliments and my sister prepared a dish call ‘masak lodeh’ to be eaten with the compressed rice. There are also pecal and beef dendeng and my youngest sister make fried noodles. Me? emmm I am the food taster and praiser because I am obviously better in eating than cooking!.And my comment is ‘You all are a hotel standard cheff’ bravo!! and well done every one!!

On the first open day. the guests were mostly villagers and near by relatives but on the second day, they were relatives from afar but from around selangor he…he…he… not that far though!.

Whoever comes on the third day and so on are still be very much welcome  and well treated to but regretfully there is no heavy meals just varieties of delicious biscuits and beverages but you are most welcome by all means,  from the bottom of our heart.

Thank you everyone for making my father happy.Only Allah the only one that could repay you, And He pays better!!

Bye and wasallam

Salam to all muslim all over the world!

Happy Ramadhan! and it is already the 14th of Ramadhan !

Eidil Fitri is just around the corner!

Happy Eidil Fitri!

So…What’s on your mind? Are you happy that Ramadhan is going to end? emm…May be…[the writer speak out her mind] Looks like she ia a very ungrateful writer!. hmmm..the writer of this blog needs brainwashing before its too late!.

Grandma! Do you know that fasting purify your body?. I  don’t know but they said so!. They say that fasting is good for our health.

Grandma! Do you know that the ibadah of fast will give you syafaat when you are in distress in the hereafter? They say so! and I believe them.

Grandama! Are you glad in this Ramadhan? They say we should be glad! We should be glad performing this ibadah with all the merits and rewards and try to get as many as we can. And we will be glad meeting our Creator Allah Azza wa jalla.

Grandma! Do you know that fasting will hindered you from Hell? Well, They say so and I believe them.

But Grandma! They also say that we must watch our fast. We must guard our fast so that our fast will be accepted 100% by Allah. They say we must guard our mind,our mouth,our eyes and our deed to get an ‘A’ grade fast! Can you do that grandma?  Okay than! Lets do it! cayuk! cayuk!

wasalam

Asalamualaikum dear readers,

May we prosper under the protection and blessing of Allah the best protector.

May we receive all the rewards and merits to our good deeds and good works in this special month.

May Allah commiserate or have pity to our neglection in performing our ibadah.

May Allah The Forgiver, forgive our too many sins.

May this special month teaches us about detriment especially in lack of ibadah.

May Allah forgive me for my acquisitive.

May Allah forgive me for my bad initiative.

May Allah forgive me for my bad atitute

But Allah,My only Saver,

Please Mighty Allah please, 

Return My son back to me safe and sound after his four months nissab.

I am not a strong mother, not as strong as the sahabiah, and at this moment my tears drop thinking of his safety because he went to a ‘not too a  peace country’ and I am not ready to lose him.

Please forgive me Ya Allah Ya Rahman for my selfishness.

Please Ya Allah The Best Protector,Please protect my son where ever he is. He is trying to fulfil his duty as a muslim.Please Ya Allah, please ensure his safety for me Ya Allah, Although I am not fit to deserve and receive so because I am ful of sins and I beg for your forgiveness Ya Allah, please guide him into safety.

I am a weak mother with a weak iman. Ya Allah Ya Rahim,Ya Allah Ya Rahman.Please forgive this humble servant of yours.

And this humble servant of yours need you to inspire him to write a postcard to her mother,Just a Postcard a month.Please Ya Allah, not that I did not trust You, but this weak and full of sins humble servant need to know his where about. nothing more.Thank you Mighty Allah for listenning to me for You are The Best Listener.

I am waiting,

Wasalamualaikum   

Asalamualaikum dear silent readers!!!]gotcha! caught you red handed!]

At this moment while every one is in the mosque performing ‘terawih’ ,Here I am in-front of the PC , pouring my heart to you.

I am rather disappointed because I cannot perform the ibadah because I am forbidden to do so.I cannot perform solah and tomorrow I cannot even fast.

This is so frustrating.Actually I am looking forward to the ‘ibadah of ramadhan’.As a matter of fact every body does!!.Every Muslim does!!.

But I have to accept the fate that I am not chosen.

But I thought I am already menopause. After the heavy bleeding ends,I thought my menstrual period also ended.

It seems that I am totally wrong.After nearly a year without menstrual period,I bleed a little last month and heavier this month.I think my body is normal again.

Rejoice?,I don’t know..But it is rather a good news that I can’t deny.Only misplace!, but who are we to complain,Allah the Almighty is the best organizer.He the Almighty knows better and knows what best for us.

And I think I can still catch up with you all.I only hope I did not miss the ‘Lailatulqadar’.

And here by I wish you a  happy Ramadan,may your ibadah in this special month is accepted by Allah and you will receive all the merits offered by Allah the most Merciful.

wasallam

p/s

I am now buzy helping my brother making satay to be sold in ‘Ramadhan Bazaar’

     Asalamualaikum dear readers!!!

    Actually when I first sit in this chair I am feeling happy.but something just happen that makes my mood turns down.

    I could not understand how people will sometime take advantage of other people’s weakness.

   They acted as if they are the master of this universe.As if there is no one who will check and record his good and bad behavior.

   As if we can do anything we like without thinking what it might effect others.As if this world is his alone.

   Very well than.Think what ever you want to think.Do what you like but….

   Listen and listen good.and beware!!!

   You are being watched !!!

   Every did will be checked!!!

   No body can escaped from the day of resurrection!!!!

   No body can escape from the judgement day!!!

    You are totally responsible to every action you make.

    Allah The AlMighty is the best and most fair justice of all.

I am not going to say much more and I am not going to reveal any thing.I  am also not going to accuse any body.My plead is to Allah and my feeling and sorrow is only for him to hear.

Asalamualaikum to all!!

At last every body is again fit and well.My praises goes to Allah the Al-Mighty healer.

I am sorry to leave this blog outdated for so long.

You see,I don’t feel comfortable sitting in-front of the PC having a good time when my sick husband was  restlessly tossing himself here and there on bed.

As a good and obedient wife I did the proper thing that a good wife would do.I took care of him with love and every now and then persuade him to see the doctor and smiling patiently for his rejection.He had no appetite for rice so I make him frequent cereal drinks.

After two weeks my patience become weaker and without much words but with plenty of considerations, I prepared him to the hospital.The clock shows that it was a quarter past ten that evening. My elder son started the car and I push him in without word and with a very serious ready to quarrel face.

We when to the emergency ward,My husband is allergic to penicillin and some antibiotics so the doctor have to be very careful and as he was in fever more then two weeks he have to under took blood test.We spent more than five hours at the hospital….to be cont

I am sorry to have to stop now but my third son just came home from the world ijtimak and I would like to know the full account and full detail of what was happening there. so…bye for now…

Asalamualaikum to you one more time dear readers

Where were we just now? let me recall…emmm we were talking about my husband. ah..yes but to make the story short we were finally home by three o’clock the next morning.And as the doc says that the medicine might also cause allergy he refused to consume.I seal my lips.Alhamdullillah by Allah’s will he recovers from the fever.And I still seal my lips when he nags about why when he is the one who is sick he has to go to the hospital where as I don’t have to.Giving as many examples as he could get to stand up the fact that ‘it is okay for everyone else to not to go to the hospital when sick except him’ The nagging goes on and on for the whole week,but as I am a good wife,I still seal my lips

And then two days ago my daughter in UITM Melaka called She was under quarantine.In-fact the whole two blocks of her hostels are under quarantine.Three students are spotted to be H1N1 positive.I pray for their health.May Allah the most merciful have mercy on them.Please be patient everyone.Solat nafil two rakaats with your heart and soul into it,Insyaallah Allah the best listener will listen to your prayer.As for my daughter,I know her well to assume that she is having a good time with no classes for a week!! Come on girl! I know you better!!and I an not born yesterday.Get up lazy head and study!! this is the time for you to catch up whatever needs catching up and to sharpen whatever needs sharpening.Go! go! go! Chayuk!!

Wassalam.

     Salam everyone!!

This grandmother is not well today.My fever cooled down yesterday,but my nose is still running and today I am coughing.Yesterday Allah heals my fever,Alhamdullillah.

I think I want  to lay down for a while…..to be cont

Salam to all!!

Sorry for the late continuation.

Actually last week was a testing week for me.I was sick for the whole week,my grandson was also sick and the new born had running nose.I could not let my daughter cop with her kids without help because she is still in her ”after birth abstain”.

So she came home.then after two days at my home my daughter also caught fever.

Today with Allah will every body is in good health.Alhamdullillah!!.Allah is the best healer.No medicine can heal without Allah the Almighty’s permission.

As a matter of fact sickness is good for us.it brings along Allah’s forgiveness for our sins.the longer you are sick the more your sin are forgiven.Isn’t that wonderful!!.but if we are not strong enough we can always seek for His forgiveness and perform solat sunat.We pray to Allah The Healer to heal our sickness and only after that do we search for the usual material as a cause or reason,such as paracetamol,herbs,rest or sleep.we must know in our heart that all this worldly material can do nothing without Allah’s permission.

Our heart and soul are in His hand.We will look for him in better or in worse.We will take whatever our fate is, obediently without question and to Him do we seek refuge.To Him do we seek pity.In better and in worse to Him we will look upon.

Wassallam.

p\s

Its my husband’s turn this week…

Be strong my love…